Hi.

How does raw food have influence your personal relationships? In my case, even though I consider myself atractive?, I've started to not follow the social inertia and become satisfied living single. At first, I felt some worry because everybody else is doing the oposite. But at the same time, I found a lot of relief as if I had cut a big metal ball attached with a chain from my neck. I feel free and fearless acepting being myself as I am right now. I eat, sleep, do exercise, read, that's it! I feel I don't need anybody else to be happy. That does not mean that I'll stay single though It is a journey of discoveries. I feel as if raw food has made me start life from scratch, shaking off old goals, and reevalueting new ones.

Panchito,
It's much wiser to make life choices based on thoughtful consideration of options instead of doing something just because it is what is expected by society or what has always been done.
Having a broader perspective makes life richer.
Best wishes in your new discoveries.
Trive


My favorite raw vegan

Thanks Trive. Sometimes it is difficult to find out the cause of things. Relations could be based on idealized romanticism, fear, reproductive genes (sex), social recognition, boredom, chemistry, etc. There are lots of unconscious circumstances running on the background of the mind. People look for an idealized fantasy or sex but once they get there attraction may pop out like a soap bubble. The faster you find out the better. There is a lot of fear found when confronting the idea one has about what a relation should be or should last.

Interesting topic.
The desire for a relationship has so many factors ,including age.
When I was in my thirties,thats all I thought about....finding someone and experiencing sex.My twenties were spent alone,and I actually preferred it that way,as you indicate you are happy being alone.I know what that is like to not need the companionship of anyone.And it is indeed very freeing.
Now in my late 40's,I have found a balance of being alone,and also companionship.Its all cyclical.
If I were to sum this post up,it would be I believe raw lifestyle,by many ways,can lead to a person being more comfortable living in solitude.SAD diet can simply agitate the soul to the point where you crave just about anything "out there".
Vinny



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Glad to ear the age perspective. It looks like you have a supple mind. When people age, they usually lose the mind suppleness. Their mind is "set" or frozen on ideas/opinions. Usually, it takes a lot of effort\energy to blow them out of the penny

I echo your sentiments OP. Since you are single, try giving up porn/masturbation. This will free up more energy thats usually wasted.

After I went raw and got in touch with what I really NEED to be well (I do admit intentional self-healing use of entheogens played a part in this as well... some were raw but some were boiled! ), I flew solo for about three years.

I realized I was using sex psychologically in ways that were not very healthy, to distract, self-medicate, whatever, but it was ultimately not in my best interest. So I just chilled out, got healthy, broke down the old patterns and started forming a new and very honest relationship with myself.

The natural order of things of a female at my age also seems to be procreation. One thing that really struck me and kept being single a no-brainer was... could I imagine myself having kids with this person? If the answer was NO!!! (which it very simply was for three years), then it just made no sense to even bother going on a hands-free date. Not worth the time.

Now I'm with a gorgeous raw vegan man who IS the person I KNOW I want to have kids with (not for like... another seven years!). We share all the same values, I know I will NEVER have to worry about him taking my kids to Tim Hortons for an Iced Capp or something atrocious. We're on the same page with everything important and have a great domestic partnership.

I started a new job recently with a bunch of people who are all 10-15 years older than me... and they were all talking about, yes, it's important to spend life with the right person for you, but if you can make the choice before you have kids, you need to find the right person to have them with, too.

And that's my situation and the path that being raw -> tuning within -> disposing of old, unhealthy patterns led me to and how it relates to relationships.

There is so much societal programming out there for how to have a dysfunctional relationship... so it makes sense to call everything into question when getting healthy on a mind/body/spirit level. Plus, first, you have to forge that relationship with yourself.

phantom that was lovely to read this is a great post, and something i have been thinking about alot recently. I've been single for about 2 years, And before that haven't had many 'proper' relationships! But I am always happy on my own too I'm 27 this year, and feeling kind of how phantom said above... If i cant imagine having children with this person, There is no point in having a relationship!

I'm learning lots on my own journey at the moment, and when the times right for me to learn and grow with another it will happen

I am 30 and a full time single mother. My choice to go raw has made me want to transform my entire life. I am now caring about myself. Instead of thinking of the person I want to be, I am working on just being that person now.

I have been single for a while and going raw has taught me to value myself in more ways than just what I eat.

I am waiting to find the perfect match for me. Going raw has made me a more grounded person and a better mother.

I am no longer fighting with my child's father for help, because I just accept the situation for what it is. I don't want to be the angry woman, I want to be the woman that takes what life gives and lives in gratitude.

What I see now is that before going raw, I had aspired for social approval, recognition, status, to become someone successful and so procreate?. I guess relations came more as a mix of social force of inertia where I was born being nobody and I had to make myself and procreate? by succeeding in society.

I am still baffled at the idea that different foods can change the personality of a person. Have vegans different personalities than meat eaters (I wasn't vegan before going raw)?

Now that I remember, the spark that triggered the change was the colonics. Somehow, there is this thing with bacteria in the GI track that does not make logical sense but it is real.