RawPracticalist Wrote:
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> You should not feel bad. He is in a better place.
>
> It is a plane of love, forgiveness, and peace.
>
> He is probably looking down and reading this forum
> from our thoughts.
>
> He is probably saying I LOVE THIS FORUM.
>
> He is probably saying I LOVE YOU MY FRIENDS.
>
> We love you back WheagrassYogi.

Do you really think people feel bad for him? Most people are feeling bad for THEMSELVES. It forces us to realize that this life is really an illusion because it's temporary. And as much crap as we go through, there is also so much good stuff. Sentimentality is very real and it's hard to let go of.

If your friend is travelling to a far away beautiful country, you are excited about his opportunity, you are happy about him.

The problem about the after-death is that we do not know, or the church has told us that the soul will remain dormant until Christ come to resurrect the worthy, and send the bad to hell.

And we believe the church teachings and when our time is approaching we are afraid, which is very sad.

There are parents who have never stopped crying for the lost of their child, even though the child was sick, suffering, and is now in better and peaceful place.

Annually they will go to the burial place, place so flowers (which is good), and cry for a long time.

So our crying sometimes is more selfish, ignorant.

We are not crying for the child but for us, for having lost companionship.

So it is all about us.

There are some who relive the beautiful memories of the life of the child, and are filled with blessings for the opportunity they had with the child.



Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 03/03/2014 11:51AM by RawPracticalist.

He is somewhere in time posting on this board laughing.

THeSt0rm Wrote:
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> So what if we are crying for ourselves? is that
> not also part of expression so we can then move on
> and work on ourselves?
>
> It may not be ideal, but it's still can be
> considered "normal" part of expression, and should
> not be repressed.
>
> And surely not made to feel unecessarily shameful
> for.
>
> You make it seem like all deaths are perfect and
> happen at times when people may no longer need
> each other. Death doesn't happen perfectly for
> everyone all the time, it can take time to move
> on.
>
> Oh well, I guess we should all be thinking "shame
> on people who greive". Shame on people who feel
> helpless and alone.
> Because it is disrespectful to Your god.
> ??
>
> Also, be thankful for everyone else's suffering
> because it is the work of Your god.

We have to live in the present.

The event has passed, we learn from it and move on.

But waking up everyday with memories of the loss, make oneself even more miserable

And sometimes the departed one feels the pain of the parent and will try talk to the parent that she is fine and happy in the new place. Of course the parent cannot hear and even reason and keep crying.

Life was unfair and an innocent child was taken from her.