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la_veronique
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Date: March 01, 2008 03:55PM . Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 03/01/2008 03:56PM by la_veronique. Re: ..
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Anonymous User
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Date: March 01, 2008 04:06PM my goodness woman, you are such a tease! Re: ..
Posted by:
la_veronique
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Date: March 01, 2008 04:27PM well, actually i tried to post something but my computer had some sort of talons going on it preventing me from sending the post ( cuz i was adding to it)
but what i was going to post an article about the idea about how men seem to think that women like jerks who are 1. inattentive 2. critical 3. a player 4. unavailable i couldn't get the article to post... it was a yahoo post and they are weird well, i don't like jerks i like nice guys i think they have a lot more character and i sure hope i am not in the minority LOL Re: ..
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Anonymous User
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Date: March 01, 2008 04:31PM The way to get rid of jerks is for all women to boycott them 100% Dont marry jerks.
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Posted by:
Pistachio
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Date: March 02, 2008 12:42AM The biggest risk factor for a divorce is getting married, so... Wishing you vibrant health Re: ..
Posted by:
la_veronique
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Date: March 02, 2008 02:42AM pistachio... that is HILARIOUS!! ( not to be insensitive to those who experienced that)
but still.. Re: ..
Posted by:
MauiGreg
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Date: March 03, 2008 08:32PM Hey LaV,
I wish that article could have been posted. There have been times in my life that i believed that women only liked arrogant jerks. I even thought about acting like one, but quickly decided against it. When I looked at the issue more deeply i realized that the women who loved these jerks, weren't the women that I would want to be with anyway. They had no self confidence and looked to these arrogant jerks for validation. I think nice guys fall for confidant women who are completely self validating. Nice guys only finish last because we would rather take our time finding the sweetest woman. Obviously I'm taking my sweet time... 41 and still single, yet this life is perfect as it is. When that sweet woman finds me, it will be perfect then too. Aloha Nui Loa, Greg A great many people think they are thinking when they are really rearranging their prejudices. - William James There is no pill that can be swallowed, There is no guru, that can be followed, - Michael Franti (Pray For Grace) The only way to deal with an unfree world is to become so absolutely free that your very existence is an act of rebellion. - Albert Camus Re: ..
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Anonymous User
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Date: March 03, 2008 10:04PM le sigh. me too greg my friend. me too.
36, still haven't met mr wonder. i've met a couple of mister fertilities though! . Re: ..
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Pistachio
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Date: March 04, 2008 12:20AM Coco and Greg:
You never know where and when that special person will appear from. Remember a while back a couple met through the forums on this board and are still together. Maybe yours could be lurking around with the right matching chemistry as well. Wishing you vibrant health Re: ..
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MauiGreg
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Date: March 04, 2008 01:57AM absolutely pistachio, ...it happens, when it happens, because that's when it should happen... not a moment sooner. Aloha Nui Loa, Greg A great many people think they are thinking when they are really rearranging their prejudices. - William James There is no pill that can be swallowed, There is no guru, that can be followed, - Michael Franti (Pray For Grace) The only way to deal with an unfree world is to become so absolutely free that your very existence is an act of rebellion. - Albert Camus Re: ..
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Anonymous User
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Date: March 04, 2008 06:28AM "matching chemistry"
Does that mean both composed of green drinks? elnatural Re: ..
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Anonymous User
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Date: March 04, 2008 08:19PM ha ha.
i'm not in any hurry actually, i just miss smooching. i like smooching. and i meant mr. wonderful, though mister wonder will do! Re: ..
Posted by:
Lightform
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Date: March 05, 2008 09:33AM Nice attitude Maui.. I agree completely. Re: ..
Posted by:
la_veronique
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Date: March 05, 2008 09:55PM hmmmm... here are my observations
I think that the difference between jerks and nice guys is that Nice Guys: are NOT doormats have morals and integrity are firm in their convictions but willing to concede that they don't know everything will treat a woman with respect will treat himself with respect will treat others with respect is sincere may or may not be secure about himself but still makes a high effort to sincerely be respectful Jerks: treat others as if they were doormats ( or things to be used) thinks morality and integrity are aberrrant notions are rigid in their beliefs and will shoot people down who disagree with them will treat a woman with disrespect ( and in doing so... treats himself with disrespect ( therefore....inevitably... treats others with disrespect is insincere thinks that by being a jerk , he will impress women with his offstandishness, unavailability and coldness ( strangely enough, some women fall for it) are basically extremely insecure and takes it out on others However, I have observed both traits in the SAME GUY!! So... go figure. I give up. I'll never figure you guys out . EVER! please tell me u guys aren't that complicated LOL Re: ..
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MauiGreg
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Date: March 05, 2008 11:30PM LaV,
I feel ya... I think it's the human species that is so complicated. We are all in various stages of learning and unlearning, living through or dealing with, our fears etc. I could make two very similar lists, but the headings would be 'sweet women' vs. 'mean girls'. ...the overall characteristics seem the same. I think pretty often we can find people who can fit in both lists. Then it's just like dealing with dogs...some are always gentle and kind, some are vicious, and some are only vicious occasionally... those are the ones that you always have to have your guard up around. I would rather not be around a dog like that... so much nicer to feel confidently relaxed in the fact that you won't get bitten. But yes, it is impossible to figure out. My last girlfriend betrayed my trust and she justified her behavior by saying that I should look at it as a blessing from the universe because the universe was providing me with a valuable lesson that would make me a better person. ...and yes, that is absolutely true that it was a valuable lesson, but I needed to arrive at that understanding as part of my healing process, not to hear it as a lame justification for completely selfish behavior. That one had my mind spinning for several months. I think the trick is to always remain open to the energy of love, because if we allow our painful experiences with the jerks or mean girls to close us off from love... well that's a tragedy that far surpasses the original hurt. Aloha Nui Loa, Greg A great many people think they are thinking when they are really rearranging their prejudices. - William James There is no pill that can be swallowed, There is no guru, that can be followed, - Michael Franti (Pray For Grace) The only way to deal with an unfree world is to become so absolutely free that your very existence is an act of rebellion. - Albert Camus Re: ..
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Anonymous User
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Date: March 05, 2008 11:38PM Not that complicated, I scored a perfect %100.
You are right, just very few like that. Has to do with brutality training. sports, war, cars etc. I have never watched a football game in my life! Relationships are not a part of the game. elnatural Re: ..
Posted by:
la_veronique
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Date: March 06, 2008 12:38AM maui greg
thoughtful post thanks i guess we all try our best and it takes courage to see the best in others el natural u scored 100% ? hee hee what a guy ! Re: ..
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Anonymous User
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Date: March 06, 2008 04:58AM Relationship has to be first to the point of never anything physical it would still be for life.
Women shouldn't be viewed as inferior in every way. Women shouldn't be viewed as just slaves. elnatural Re: ..
Posted by:
Anonymous User
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Date: March 10, 2008 07:11AM pornagraphy, etc. creates jerks
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Posted by:
la_veronique
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Date: March 10, 2008 10:25AM most men seem pretty decent though
case in point: u guys are not a bad lot LOL Sorry, only registered users may post in this forum.
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